On Sunday I did something new – I admitted my life wasn’t perfect into a microphone at the front of church.
I told everyone that I had a row with my husband right before hosting life group that week and that when my life group arrived I told them too.
I can see a few of you cringing at the thought of it – the thought of opening up your life like that, of exposing your humanness.
You see, we work so hard at hiding, hiding our faults, hiding our mistakes, hiding the very fact we are human and fallible.
All of this hiding has to stop. It has to stop because it is exhausting, it takes up almost every fiber of energy we have and it causes us to miss out. We miss out on the opportunity to let people into our messiness and the opportunity for others to feel less alone.
Guess what? After I admitted that Sunday no one accused me of failing at life, of falling short, of dispelling the myth of perfection. In fact, I am sure I audibly heard people breathe a sigh of relief, of release even.
I wasn’t mortified either, I felt very much more alive than I have in a while – it was liberating!
You see we’re very happy to model and be examples of things like prayer, giving, serving, bringing words, being out in the community, leading… I could go on but no one wants to be an example of messiness do they? No one wants to be an example of falling short despite the fact we all fall short.
The thing is until more people are happy to speak out and stand up and say ‘I’m a mess, I get it wrong a lot but this is how I’m working through it.’ all we are doing is perpetuating the myth of perfection and ultimately I believe that is far more dangerous, damaging and devastating than being vulnerable, open and sharing our fallibility.
So I’m making an attempt, my own little stand to stop it happening. I am breaking free of ‘Sunday face’ and attempting to fully embrace what it means to be real.
Anyone else want to join me?