I’m currently lying in bed attempting to sleep and failing miserably.
My issue is I have the ‘I’m not good enough’ mantra playing on repeat in my head. I have managed to pause it for a while but then that wave of sickness hits my stomach and off it goes again.
I have always had it, ever since I can remember and I spent years believing I was the only one.
The fact is, we all have it at some point. In some way, about a particular part of our life or perhaps all if it. Sometimes it quietens for a period but then it rears its head once again and traps us in a spiral of self doubt.
Being a new mother mine currently stems a lot from my belief that I’m not good enough at it. I replay my labour, the first days and weeks of my son’s life and mentally berate myself – the ‘should haves’ fly around and are slowly fought off with the realisation that all is well and all was well. Just because I don’t have a hundred photos of me in those first days doesn’t mean I have failed. I did in fact cuddle my son enough, I do interact with him enough and yes sometimes I take him out of the house in his pyjamas but why is that even an issue? Why is it something I feel I have to explain, as if it even matters?
Before motherhood became my all consuming ‘I’m not good enough’ it was work, marriage, family, friendships, faith. They still arise sometimes just so I don’t get too complacent.
There are a whole barrage of thoughts that I wade through on a daily basis that seek to wear me down and sometimes they do, if I leave them in my head.
This post is raw, it is unadulterated vulnerability and it is scary to write but I have to. Fear tells me not to. Fear says to keep quiet.
I write this to dispell the lies I tell myself about not being good enough and I write this for you.
I write this for every single one of you who is hindered each day by a sense of not good enough.
You are good enough.
Whatever is playing on your mind right now, whatever you are in secret turmoil about, whatever pulls you down.
It’s a lie. The mantra is a lie.
You are good enough.
2 thoughts on “The 'I'm not good enough' mantra”
Thanks Louise. I was once told “it’s OK to be OK” and “aim for excellence, rather than perfection”, and of course, each of us is unique! I am privileged to have come to know you, and your encouraging/smiling comments! Look forward to seeing you next week! x
Thanks Bex – It’s ok to be ok is a great one as is excellence rather than perfection. Lovely to be described as smiley and encouraging with my comments – that’s what I aim for 🙂